PHASES OF LOVE

Relationships go through various phases.

THE FALL

Most relationships begin with a fall; you “fall” in love with your partner. Now, this is the easiest of all phases. Literally, one makes no effort to “fall”. It often just happens that you fall, unprepared, of course. Expressions like “swept off my feet” would better explain this phase.

Imagine that someone was to “sweep” you “off your feet”; taking this sentence with its face value, you’re most likely going to “fall”. Now, you don’t have to do anything – it just happens to you.

In this phase, partners are more likely receptive and welcoming of sweet nothings, wanting nothing more than the presence of the one for whom they “fell”.

THE FLOOR

When a person falls, sometimes, s/he stays on the floor for a while, probably trying first to recover from the shock of the fall or even having a good laugh while reliving the events that led to the “fall”.

As is expected however, one soon begins to get bored having to stay on one spot for a given amount of time and this could lead to unhappiness or sometimes, even anger.

At this stage, people begin to look around for a means to get off the floor by pouring more time and energy into work, hobbies, church activities or other relationships.

THE RISE

Here, people try to see how they can sustain the relationship they built through the "fall" without having to remain on the "floor" ad infinitum. For this phase, efforts need to be put in and one has to carry out the “labour” of love to "make" the relationship work.

This stage requires wisdom, too.

Do not be afraid if your reltionship it's not all lovey-dovey as the days of the "fall" - life is in phases and so is love.