A lot of concepts
have become so popular but it doesn’t make them right and if there’s a fact
that many have eroded, I believe this is one of it – a factor that has led some
men to despise their female counterparts.
When Adam first saw
Eve, he was relieved. She was his type and God declared her his helper. He was
so specific in His declaration that I get the impression that every woman
should make her man fortunate by helping him.
A woman is a gift, a
person of necessity and so accurately packaged for her man. The trend now
however doesn’t buttress this point, not because women have lost these
abilities but because they have failed to see themselves in that light. It’s
sad to see how some ladies carry themselves so helplessly as if to say the men
are doing them a favour by marrying them – God says it is you who has brought
them favour – through you, that man obtains favour.
Why look so haggard
because you’re not married yet? Why are you so depressed because you’re not in
a relationship now? That “help-me-out-of-singlehood” look you wear will not
attract a noble man’s heart.
Dear Lady reading
this piece, you’re a jewel! Your man will probably hold a thanksgiving service
daily for the blessing his life will receive if you truly realize what a helper
you are. Think like one, act like one and speak like one. You’re a helper
(helpmeet), you do not need help! Do not devalue your identity.
A man would
appreciate and respect a woman whom he needs, not one who is needy.
Society has
indoctrinated many ladies to leave their duties as support systems to a man.
Proverbs 31 (the scripture on the virtuous woman) speaks of God’s intended
feminity – who and what a woman should be and do to and for her man.
God defined a woman as
a helper at creation and to my mind, that implies that there’s a “burden” (I
use that word for lack of another) on man to which only a woman can render
help. If women are referred to as the “weaker” gender, it is because there is a
“weak” gender and because God’s ways are mysterious but wondrous, a weaker
gender can supply strength to a weak gender!
As a woman, a
helper, a pillar, you do not leave the labour of love to the man alone, you do
not let a man bear responsibilities alone, you carry the “burden” with him, together
– you supply help! Lady, you are strong, God made you so, see yourself as such
and carry yourself in like manner. Do not let your relationship with your man
seem a parasitic one, you’re equipped, empowered and anointed - to help.
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