Thursday 31 October 2013

LETTER TO GOD

Dear God,

You have given us such wonderful lives and there are so many things that we ought to be grateful for. Sometimes, we do find ourselves being discontent and we know that this is because we put our hopes and dreams in things of this world – instead of in you. We ask that you help us to always have peace about where we are in life. We owe it to you to be satisfied, because you have given to us sacrificially. Sometimes the world pressures us to live, think, or behave in a particular way, and when we cannot achieve these things, discontentment settles in.

There are all these checkboxes in life for every stage. In the beginning, these checkboxes were not all that apparent. But as we grew older, we are more aware of things that we have not done, have no intentions on doing or have yet to achieve.

We thank you for being patient with us during the times when we’ve fallen down the discontentment slope. Thank you for pulling us up time and again.

As we grow closer to you, and learn more about what is written in your word, we have discovered the secret to being content is being thankful in every situation. We know that not all situations will feel great or comfortable but you have promised that you will bring good out of the bad for those who love you – so that naturally, that includes your children. Since we know you love us, there is no reason why we should not trust the plan that you have for our lives. We know and believe that you have great things in store for us – and if we don’t get to check a particular box, it means it’s not the time or you have something better for us or that it isn’t one of your great plans for us. To be content, we need to trust in your provisions and your will for our lives.

We’ve also learned that it is important to focus outwardly, helping others and serving to uplift your kingdom. Not only does this accomplish the work you need done, it also is a healthy distraction away from an idle mind that looks for discontentment in the things that have not gone as we willed them to. Being preoccupied with the interested of others is what we desire.


Father, we want to be content in the good and the bad, not moved by circumstances. We want to be content with little or with plenty. We’d like to be content because we know for certain that you have our backs. And because we can do all things through Your strength, we can be content. Most of all, we’d like to be content because we know that trusting fully in you means being content with where we are right now – today. Help us lord, to be mindful of all these things. Please, remove any spirit of discontentment that rests within us so that we can bloom.

Friday 25 October 2013

YOU'RE ALLOWED TO QUIT SOMETIMES

We’re always raised to “try our best” and never “quit.” Well, society, thanks for setting us up for this somewhat terrible advice but, it’s OKAY to quit.
Many of us spend our time trying to overcome quitting on a day to day basis. I’m not saying we should go out and quit our jobs, schools, marriages and kids, etc. But there are some situations in which it’s best to quit and move on. I have outlined some circumstances when I think we should just raise up the white flag.

Skills (or lack thereof) and Talents:
Can we really do anything we put our minds to? Wrong. I, for one, could never be a sprinter. For those of you who have seen me run, you know my legs don’t work that way. I could never be a dancer. Sure, I could try and try and maybe, just maybe, I could get good at it one day. But am I going to keep trying knowing my lack of coordination? No. I don’t particularly think I would like being set on a dance floor. Obviously these are very dramatic examples, but the same applies to singing, acting, and even day to day activities. I can understand trying to stick with certain activities as a child, as you’re still developing mentally and physically, but I don’t think there are any ten-year-old reading this. So, if you are miserable doing something that you’re awful at and it’s getting you nowhere, please, just quit. Move on to something that will be a more appropriate use of your time, and much more fulfilling.

Your Job:
Many people are afraid to quit their job for a better one, or even look for new opportunities, because they are afraid of disappointing their current boss or because there are no guarantees of better ones. I’ve realized after moving a couple different jobs for new opportunities that when it comes down to it, your boss doesn’t care about you. At the end of the day, they need to run a business. They WILL replace you. If you can better yourself by leaving for a new opportunity, please, do. Don’t hesitate. No one ever got anywhere by standing still.

Your relationship:
When you have a commitment to someone, usually there is a lot invested in it. Sometimes people get married just because they have a joint loan payment, or they bought a toy together. They get sucked into this world that they don’t want to be in. It’s no shock that divorce rates are sky rocketed. If some couples just quit on each other before they get married, the world would be a much happier place. Right?  Relationships aren’t meant to be easy, and you shouldn’t give up on “the one” if things are a little rocky. But if you know deep down that they are not right for you.


Life isn’t made to be easy, and you shouldn’t quit every time something get’s tough. But be realistic, have a backup plan if you are determined to stay with your dancing or any other far-fetched passion, and always be true to who you are (not who everyone else wants you to be).

Thursday 24 October 2013

DO YOU CONSTANTLY TRY TO PROVE YOURSELF TO OTHERS?

We must admit that most of our actions are motivated to win the acceptance and admiration of our peers. There is something about pleasing people that pleases us.

Most of the time, it is our personal insecurities that cause this “I need to be good enough for you” mentality. One psychologist said that to even entertain this “I need to be good enough” debate in your head is already a choice to go to the path of unhappiness. For you will never be good enough in your mind. You will always find something that you need to be “good enough” to please others.

To live in the mercy of others’ approval and acceptance is like building your life on shifting sands because people’s opinions are fickle; they love you today and then hate you tomorrow, here today and gone tomorrow. Putting the direction of your life at other’s hands is to miss out your own life.

We need to learn to accept ourselves. Even those things we do not like in ourselves. Accepting does not mean liking what you see, but accepting that they are real. If you have a bad temper, you do not need to like your bad temper. But you must accept that you have one!
Only when we accept ourselves for who we really are can we start to grow. We must accept our strengths and also our weakness, the good and the bad in us. Only when we can look at ourselves objectively can we start changing those aspects of our lives that need improvements.

We must first win the approval of ourselves. I approve of me! Yes, I approve of me because God approves of me. If God did not approve of me, I would not even be here.

If you want to win the approval of others, win the approval of the God first. God approves of your creation, but do you think He approves on how you are living your life right now? God’s approval of our lives brings us joy. Happiness can only be found when we are in line with God’s plan for our lives. “Well done, my good and faithful servant. Come, share your master's joy.”  Mt 25:23


It is in God’s approval that we bloom.

Thursday 10 October 2013

What Is A Teacher? Think Twice!

As I progress in my training to probably become a future educator, I am learning more and more about how much the teaching profession is greatly misinterpreted by many individuals in our culture today. It is my desire not to change your thoughts about a teacher, but to give a little insight into the role of a teacher’s job. Ultimately, it is my desire to make you (hopefully) think before you speak, post, or share something through communication, social media, or friends and family that may be demeaning to some teacher somewhere who helped you get to the point you are in life today.
When thinking back to my education, many of those who made the biggest difference in my life are teachers (and their influence is still a part of my life years later). If I do remain one, I want to be that teacher who stands out in a student's mind when thinking back on their education in the years to come. While this profession is one that is undervalued or disrespected, I’d probably choose it because I want to make a difference. Even though the profession itself does not include the most difficult tool set, the tools and strategies I am learning are things that I will be able to challenge, expand upon and change for a lifetime because no two students are the same, as is no classroom or grade level from year to year. These tools that I am learning about teaching, guiding, and encouraging students are not something that can be memorized. Rather, they must be understood and built upon with passion and patience. It certainly is also not a profession that pays in monetary value either, but it pays in bigger ways that are substantially life changing each and every day, even on days that I am inside or outside of the classroom.

I have only been a teacher for a lot less than one quarter of a year. I honestly have no clue what those who have paid their dues in this field would say if I already feel this way. I have spent over a month teaching at a primary school in my area. During this time, I’ve also been required to learn and take trainings in order to progress forward through this phase as a teacher. It would be an understatement to say that it is a load because typically everything that has to be taught is not covered in class due to limited time constraints.

Therefore, while learning to be a teacher, I am also learning to become a professional, co-worker, community leader, multi-tasker, planner, nurse, volunteer, and mother to many of my little friends. I am learning that no two days are crafted with the same experiences, rather each day is a block built upon the lessons learnt the day before. Maybe those lessons are considered to be used and maybe teachers become creative and use new methods of engagement when teaching. Even though I can now call me a teacher, I am still learning to teach, modeling teaching with my peers and understudying other teachers, the real world inside the classroom is very different in every school, city and state.

As with anything else, planning and preparation take place outside of the classroom, but judgment of student knowledge and success is mastered inside the classroom. Before judging and devaluing the role of a teacher publicly, it would be of high regards and appreciation for you to place yourself inside the shoes of a teacher, parent, or even an education student before attempting to judge the profession in outlandish ways. Many have no cue why teachers pursue methods of teaching in the ways that they do in order to engage a student, nor do most understand the work that is done before the teaching takes place, and the assessment done after teaching takes place. As with an effective classroom community, effective communication is rendered. So, why not contribute the same effective communication through your community when speaking to or about a teacher?

Currently, I am “attending classes” as if I was a teacher aligned with the typical 6:30AM - 4:30/5:30PM schedule. For those who believe a teacher only works 8:00AM - 2:00PM (I used to be there, too), think twice. For those who believe a teacher is given money to buy necessities, think twice. For those who think teachers work fewer hours than any other profession, think twice. For those who think teachers have it easy and only play with kids all day, think twice. Before speaking or sharing words through social media or in public in derogatory terms about educators, please, think twice.

Some teacher somewhere in this world helped you to get to the point you are in life today. No matter your profession, income, or current education I suggest you take a look into your surroundings while at work because I assume someone is teaching another co-worker something new and some co-worker is learning something new. This goes for preachers, engineers, hair stylists, cashiers, accountants, realtors, nurses, maintenance workers, waiters, and so forth. Think twice!

A teacher is someone who works 24 hours a day, not 7AM to 3PM. While teachers do get holidays, they are still working, learning, planning, earning professional development, and sharing supplies and tool set information with other teachers. If you really wanted to calculate the number of hours a teacher works, it will be more than all other professions (I’m not being biased, my senior colleagues can testify to that. Lol!). The majority of the work a teacher does is at home or outside of the classroom when gathering and preparing notes for a lesson. We teach in the classroom. We prepare to teach outside of the classroom. Better yet, when in public, having lunch at a restaurant, shopping in the market, or at a mall, teachers are still teachers. They are being judged based on the clothes they wear, the food and drink they consume, the way they discipline children, and the way they present themselves because each and every little thing they do is a reflection of the classroom.

A teacher is someone who does not get paid for the majority of the work done in the classroom. A teacher is someone who will never be refunded for what is spent outside of the classroom either. Many teachers do not get paid holiday bonuses, receive raises through the years, or know what it is like to have leave grants. Therefore, the majority of the things they buy for lessons and classrooms are not bought with state or school money. They are bought with personal money. A large portion of single teachers cannot even afford to live alone because of the rate of income; this is considering the income of private school teachers. Public school teachers hardly even make one quarter of that which private school teachers receive. Not to mention, that private school teachers do not receive retirement or insurance benefits.

A teacher is someone who can plan and prepare lesson notes, learning objectives and follow appropriate standards. But if the students do not understand the materials, the teacher has to think on her/his toes and reinvent the wheel, because “if a child cannot learn the way we teach, we must teach the way they learn”. Telling a student is completely different than teaching a student, as is teaching a student completely different than involving a student in his or her own learning. 

A teacher is someone who has to learn to hold it when needing to use the bathroom because s/he cannot leave the classroom unattended. If lucky, s/he may be able to use the bathroom while on the planning period, but typically something comes up or she may most likely forget. 

A teacher is someone who has to learn to eat a multi-course meal at lunch in a matter of five minutes while monitoring the students in her/his classroom not talking, rather eating their lunch. 

A teacher is someone who must teach in order for his or her students to do well on standardized tests in order to keep his/her job. The teacher also has to discover a means by which to not teach to the test in order for the student to learn and evolve into a well rounded student that will be successful in today's society. 

A teacher is someone who must have passion to love, teach, listen, care, and keep on keeping on. S/he cannot just show up to work and expect everything to run smoothly as planned because it typically won't when teaching a classroom full of children who all stem from completely different households, cultures, and backgrounds. It may not always be an easy job, but it is SO WORTH IT. 

A teacher is someone who has the most important job on the market today because s/he is advocating for our future generations. It takes a big heart to shape little minds. The majority of teachers are the only mother or father figure a student will see on a daily basis because many children come to school from an empty home and leave school heading to an empty home. 

A teacher is so much more than just a teacher. S/he is a policeman of behaviour, travel agent scheduling field trips, counselor and psychologists to a troubled or problem filled child, confidant who wipes away tears, banker collecting lunch money, librarian who brings books to life, a custodian who cleans mess after mess, a psychic that learns to guess the answers of the shy or stuttering/spluttering students, photographer for a child’s special days, record keeper for the growth of each student, mother and father figure to many who have neither, doctor of ailing children, advocate for mediating classroom disputes, decorator to attract student interests, party planner, news reporter, detective, compere, comedian, dietitian, clown, and preacher.

A teacher is someone who is defined as one who teaches. But that hardly does justice to a profession that reaches far beyond just imparting some knowledge of skill, for there are so many roles a teacher must fill - counselor, entertainer, motivational speaker, disciplinarian, comforter, mind-reader et al. A teacher is a guardian who must constantly be aware, a mediator who must constantly be unbiased and fair. By whatever means necessary, a teacher finds a way to meet the needs of each child in their care, every day. And their work does not end with a ring of a bell, for teaching's not just a job, it's a calling as well. Despite the weight of the mission, they must be happy to serve. All teachers ask is the respect they deserve. And they know if they have properly played their parts, their success can be found in their students' minds and hearts.
A teacher is someone who puts fifteen to thirty little warm bodies before himself/herself each and every single moment of each and every single day. A teacher is someone who is selfless and sacrifices for the betterment of a child's future. How do you serve your children at home? How do you serve at work? Are you selfless in each endeavor you pursue?

Honestly, this list could really go on and on. However, I hope my point has been made. I certainly am not here to say it is one profession that I love so much, but I know better now to respect it. In opposition for the negativity that surrounds education, I would love to advocate for so many of the children I have had the opportunity to teach – “children must be taught how to think, not what to think”. Otherwise, we only then have mini adults in the future who were taught to speak judgment upon others without understanding the value of how to learn and the purpose of education. For the time being, I plan to learn how to minimally accept the demise our world puts on teachers without the interference of ignorance affecting me at the core.


Teachers are caregivers and we teach because we want to make some type of difference. Quite frankly, I cannot wait to experience more of all the above because I cannot wait to serve as I have been called. I cannot wait to make an impact on a life of another. There is not enough money, time, materialistic values, or negative comments in this world to shut out the passion teachers have. Though there are enough reasons in this world why I should think twice about pursuing a career in the education field, these few months haven’t been a waste at all. For you reading this, I hope you will think twice before bashing the teaching profession. Don’t discourage teachers, help them bloom.

Wednesday 2 October 2013

LIFE HAPPENS

Forest Gump once said, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get." Well, Forest, I've got to disagree. It's not that I think life is inherently bad. I’m a glass half full kind of girl who prefers to seek good even in the darkest of situations because why not? Life's good. God's good. Seriously good. But sometimes life throws you for a loop. Or life takes a different course than the one you expected. And in those negative, unexpected times it's like your foot is covered in the stinkiest of shit and you can't possibly manage to wipe it clean. Maybe it's not just your foot, in fact, it's more like stinking sand and life smells worse than a steamer fresh from your dog’s putrid ass.

My shit storm hit before I became a teenager. Mum died, there was a baby to cater for and before the teen years were over, dad got sick. The economy tanked. I was in the university and missing home deeply. Anxiety set in at a new, obsessive-compulsive level. The scale reflected a weight higher than I’d previously seen. Left, right, up, down: life was messy. So much so, I lost my desire to look for the silver lining and sat miserably in the pain of it all. The shittiest part of it all: I did so in a void of friends, closet worrying.

Stepping in shit is ugly and painful and disgusting. But doing so within a community of people who can say, “Yes, I’ve been there. I’ve felt that feeling too. I’ve conquered those demons despite my hopelessness” is so unbelievably redemptive.

The dark moments filled two lonely and longing years of my life, but I know now, they were for this. For me to tell you: vulnerability is right and beautiful. For me to tell you: you have permission to be emotional, uncomfortable, and downtrodden. You can sit in the shit and process it and feel deeply. But, do it with one another. You owe it to yourself and to that lovely person beside you – but get o’er it quickly, too.

My deepest of convictions say we were made for one another. Existing in a void, missing out on companionship, feeling lonely and sad is robbing yourself of life’s greatest joy. So, just be, but be in a company of people who will stand beside you and lift you up when it feels too much.

We need to hold onto those who love us most in the shittiest of times. We need each other to get through life. Just be. Still. Clingy. Emotional. Whatever it is, be it here and now and with a friend.